How to be the Perfect Girlfriend
Tuesday, March 18th, 2008

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There’s a few good tips in here… some ladies should take note!

This might be told in a tongue-in-cheek way, but they’re still REAL tips.

There’s one for boyfriends too

Back to life, back to reality
Sunday, March 9th, 2008

I went to the Ireland Vs Wales rugby match today - my first time to be in Croke Park for an actual match (the single only other time I was there was for the Billy Joel and Elton John gig - a full decade ago). Was nice to have some father-son time (with my dad) and do something FUN. Pity Ireland lost.

Anyway, doubtless, if you’ve seen my last blog entry, you’ll realise that what I’ve gone through recently (with my four year long relationship with my (now ex-)fiancèe falling to pieces) hasn’t been easy and it’s meant that I’ve pretty much had to go ahead and reinvent myself and decide on creating a whole new life for myself from now on. My ex would probably admit that what I say is true - that the disintegration of our relationship was essentially down to her losing faith, losing respect and just basically not trying any more. So now here I am - starting from scratch again at age 31. Many people would think that’s too bloody hard. To be honest, I did at first - but the hell with it - I said in January that 2008 was going to be MY year… I still say that.

There are a few possibilities that have come up for me. All of them will mean me finding my way one way or another - with a new home, new job and possibly a pretty new location somewhere else in the country. I’m totally open to moving anywhere. For now, I’m in Dublin… and for now, I’m starting fresh;- kick-starting my life with a new way of thinking, a new way of living, and probably (on a smaller, less important scale… sorry…) a new look to my blog… soon… ish. No more “Crunchy Links”. No more bullshit - just straight out writing. Life’s experiences, my thoughts, my words, my pictures… and all that. The way it used to be when I started the blog… only better. I promise.

Thanks to all of you who either posted sympathetic/helpful comments on my last blog entry (seriously - I appreciate it) - and to those of you who wanted to but couldn’t (seriously, I understand), and those of you who spoke to me in person, took me out for lunch, helped me out, etc. etc. (seriously, I’ll never forget ye). It’s been a rough week… just as I knew it would be… and it’s not totally over - I still have to go back there to ‘finish off’ moving out (get the rest of my stuff, basically).

In the words of Coldplay (euch!)… “nobody said it was easy - nobody said it would be so hard - I’m going back to the start”.

Photos (click for larger versions):

The view from our seat at Croker (Canal End) Me & My Dad @ Croke Park

It’s over
Tuesday, March 4th, 2008

Together nearly four years. Engaged for nearly two.

Sharing a home, a dog, walks, talks, fun holidays - life. Loads of happy memories.

All over now. She just doesn’t feel it any more. I’ve moved out of Dundalk. Back to my family in Dublin.

It’s true what Neil Young sings - only love can break your heart. My world’s turned upside-down and inside-out. I’m utterly shattered - heart-broken. Feeling lost, numb and sick.

Really wish this wasn’t happening.